Some days, loving yourself feels natural. Other days, it feels like work.

Some days you wake up grounded and confident, and other days you’re doing your best just to be kind to yourself while moving through the world. If that sounds familiar, you’re not broken—you’re human. I’m right there with you.

We talk a lot about self-love, but the truth is, it isn’t a personality trait. It’s a practice. And like any practice, some days feel easier than others. That’s something I’ve had to remind myself of over and over again—not as a therapist, not as a business owner, but as a person living a full, messy, beautiful life.

For years, we hosted vision board parties. They were a blast. People came together, cut out images, drank tea, laughed, and left inspired. There’s something magical about saying out loud what you want and seeing it reflected back in a community.

Let’s be clear: vision boards aren’t the problem. They have real value—they help you clarify your values, spark creativity, and give direction.

But here’s the pattern I noticed: by February or March, many of those excited, clear-eyed folks were back where they started. Not because they didn’t want change—they wanted it badly. But nothing in their daily life had actually slowed down. That’s when we started asking a different question.